I’m less than two hours away from teaching my first class of 2014 and I have to admit, I’m having mixed emotions. On one hand, I’m so excited to get into class and work with my wonderful Thursday group – our theme today is a celebration of who we are – but on the other hand, I am not looking forward to the energy that comes with the “new year’s resolution crowd.”
Let me clear this up before we go any further … I am the first person to encourage someone to make life changes that will help them grow and be the best version of themselves. I love when I have someone trying one of my classes for the first time, or when I see someone signing up at the gym, and then watching as they begin their new lifestyle. What I don’t enjoy is when these changes are brought upon out of fear. Let me explain further …
I’ve always said our words have power, and I mean it. Let’s take a look at the word ‘Resolution’ – the dictionary app on my mac defines a resolution as “the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.” By definition, someone is creating a new years resolution because they think there’s a problem with them – the foundation of their lifestyle change is already lacking love. Resolutions have also been given a bad reputation over the years – more and more people are realizing that they never work, and it’s true. Most are made haphazardly, with little to no planning, and often times decided upon because others are doing it.
Over the years we’ve been hearing people talk about ditching the resolutions, and instead creating goals, and on a daily basis creating small steps to achieve these goals. I like it, but I’m still not madly in love with the idea. There’s still something missing to me … that’s why I’ve decided to abolish the word resolution! Get rid of it all together, and instead use the word EVOLUTION.
Let’s have a gandy at this word (and yes, I just shortened ‘gander’ to ‘gandy’). The word ‘evolution’ means “the gradual development of something, esp. from a simple to a more complex form.” Cue the heavenly skies opening up and sun rays shining down on us as a trumpet plays and an angelic choir sings in the background.
To evolve means to take what we have now, and develop it/grow it/transform it into something more pure – I don’t want to use the word ‘better’ here … too competitive for me. Something “more pure” is what it’s always been, just clearer so we can see it better.
So how does this “New Year EVOLUTION” work? Really, it can be done at any point in your life, but here are some simple steps to make it work for you this year.
1. Accept who you are and where you are at this point in your life. We need to start this journey from a place of love. Accept that you’re a smoker/carrying a few extra pounds/need a better budget, etc and love yourself whole heartedly, no matter what. If you fail to do this step, you’ll be running the hamster wheel for a LONG time my friend.
2. Set your goal, and create a positive goal statement. When I decided to become a healthy non-smoker in 2005, I did just that – became a healthy non-smoker. My goal statement was “I am a healthy non-smoker.” Before I spent my first day (April 9, 2005) cigarette free, I repeated that statement to myself endlessly. I’d write it down 20 times (or more!) a day, and I truly believed it. When it was time to actually become a healthy non-smoker, it was so easy because I was already that. Going around saying “I’m gonna quit smoking!” and thinking “I don’t smoke anymore!” is still putting the focus on smoking. Writing your goal statement is easy. Just write down what you want to become and then write “I am” before it. (email me your goal statement to firstname.lastname@example.org – I’d love to read it!)
3. Talk to your angels. That’s right, man – I work with my angels all the time (I’ve actually asked them to help me with this post so I can get it out before my class … success!) Thank them for their love and support, and talk to Archangel Raphael – he’s the angel of health and healing and will help take any cravings away, or help you with doing the things you need to do to become whatever it is you what to be.
4. Celebrate your successes/forgive setbacks. You went two days eating more greens/getting more movement in/going to bed before midnight/any other goal you set? Celebrate that! Happen to have a cigarette/eat chocolate/go $10 over budget/lose sight of your goal for a second? Forgive yourself immediately! Recognize you’re on a journey and it will take time. Reaffirm your evolution plan and carry on with it. Remember, you’re EVOLVING. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and habits weren’t formed over night. It took repetition to form the habit, and it’ll take repetition to evolve into a purer version of you.
I love each and every one of you and wish you all the best on your evolutionary path – where ever it is you want to go, may you always be divinely guided, protected, and loved … even when you don’t think so.
(note: this post has been edited from it’s original publishing date to correct grammar and update a few concepts.)