Maybe it’s my sunny disposition or the decision to make joy my baseline, but I was once accused of spiritual bypass. I had no idea what that meant, so obviously I hit up the google to find out. If you’re also unfamiliar with the term, spiritual bypassing is the “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks.” In other words, it’s pouring glitter on shit and hoping it doesn’t stink up the place.
Here’s the tea, sis: acknowledging our suffering is essential to healing. There’s no spiritual path that overlooks suffering and just pretends “all is well.” Let’s imagine suffering is darkness and joy is light. You can’t get rid of the darkness by closing your eyes to it – you’ll only end up in more darkness. In order to bring the light, you must first recognize the lights are off, and then flip the switch.
There’s one thing we must remember when it comes to our journey: the universe is self-organizing and self-correcting. Everything was created perfect and exactly how the universe intended – and yes, that even means you. The instant something deviates from this plan, the solution to correct the deviation is created to put us back on the right path. Think of the universe like a GPS – if you miss the stop, it will recalculate the route to get you to your destination. It’s up to us, because we always have choice in the matter, to be willing to follow the direction to get to where we’re going.
When we find ourselves in the tangled web of fear-based thinking, it’s essential to do three things:
- admit our suffering
- make the decision to let it go
- affirm our Truth
This three-step process above is what I call prayer. According to A Course In Miracles, prayer is the medium of miracles, and a miracle is simply a shift from fear-based thinking to love. It can be as simple as saying “I am willing to see this differently,” (which acknowledges that our thought in the moment isn’t in alignment with love), or we can be a little more specific to our situation (see below). We don’t need to know the answer in order to pray, but we do need to be willing to be open to it. That slight willingness is enough to let the miracle unfold.
Once we open up, it will activate the natural intelligence within us to make it so. That’s when a thought, an idea, a chance meeting, a song, an “ah-ha” moment – whatever it may be – will occur that will cause our internal GPS to say “recalculating route” and redirect you to your path.
If we don’t look at and acknowledge something is amiss, we won’t be able to open ourselves up to receive the correction. It’s not hard, it’s just different than what we’ve been led to believe all our lives. Sometimes the solution seems worse than the actual problem you find yourself in, but just like everything, that too is temporary. Just as our eyes adjust to the dark for us to see where the switch is, so too is there a thought that will adjust our perception and make it easy for us to call in more love.
You are blessed xo